Posts by l p

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Need Some Tough Love & Help

by Simon Morley in

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not sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.

yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.

i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.

Im not going to put up some advice saying ive got experience..Im very inexperienced when it comes to things like this. Im a female. My ex partner was a detective. the relationship was violent, he cheated on me multiple times, i got an STI from him...and he use to look at porn.....it was something that was a contributing factor that helped destroy me as a WOMAN!! if you get my drift...

it can do damage to a woman....ive had a heap of domestic violence and sexual assault counselling and it IS a form of abuse.....

fakesmile you are completely wrong and out of line to say that his wife is 'not doing her job'

sexual encounters within a relationship must be agreed upon and consentual.....

however - now that i have said this...try not to let the disappointment destroy you over it....treat it like you've gone to the doctor and he has told you you have an illness...after the initial shock and grief.....you move into the stage where you try to manage your illness or get it treated..... im NOT saying this is an illness...just an example....

my only bit of advice is to go and seek some counselling....in regards the relationship.....earning back trust...dealing with your wifes issues that she feels betrayed...you should seek this on your own...and also as couple counselling...this will hopefull show your wife that you are serious about listening to her, acknowledging how you have hurt her, and apologising and how you really want to earn her trust cos you love her BLAH BLAH BLAH....you get my drift.....

and i cant comment on the porn bit bec i know not much about it...just that there are varying degrees of porn....

so im sorry i cant help you in anyother way - but the advice i have given i know is the best bit of advice you can recieve...

LP

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Mental health crisis in America-

by moshe in

i found this mother's letter to be an eye opener--.

written by liza long, republished from the blue review.

friday's horrific national tragedy -- the murder of 20 children and six adults at sandy hook elementary school in newtown, connecticut -- has ignited a new discussion on violence in america.

l p

As the original post said from mum Mrs Long, that her son had been on all sorts of antipsychotics but they dont seem to work......schitzophrenia is often resistant to antipsychotics...in fact a pshychiatrist may consider this in deciphering whether someones psychosis is of a schitzophrenic origin.

Easy for me to say but she needs to not give up. The child should stay under the care of mental health professionals and really should be admitted assessment and treatment.

And for that fact any child that is having a melt down ( on an extended background of melt downs, depression, suicidal, identified mental health issues) should be hospitalised particularly if suicidal. For a parent to refuse to allow this is putting the child at risk and in Australia Community Services are to be notified that the child is "at risk of harm due to medical neglect". Being a healthcare worker i support this as if there is a risk that the child/young person could hurt themselves or another person they need to be admitted and treatment sorted out.

Lp

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The Mother own the Guns.

by jam in

mom was a gun enthusiast, just saying..

l p

Jam: you say that Tater-T has stated misleading information.

Where is your evidence to support this?

Lp

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Timeline - last 2000+ years - Please share what has God done?

by dreamgolfer in

in light of the shooting yesterday the question needs to be asked (maybe rhetorically).

what has god done to show he cares about mankind?

please dont be snippy, just be nice.. hey we deserve better dont we?.

l p

Zippo

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The Mother own the Guns.

by jam in

mom was a gun enthusiast, just saying..

l p

he who lives by the sword dies by the sword........

not sure if that relates

Lp

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New Here

by confusedteenager in

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friends

hey,.

i've been lurking on this website for a few years now and finally made an account.

i have serious doubts about the organization in general and still have not made up my mind about what to believe.

l p

Yes I agree with the posters here.... you dont have to be a pioneer or even go regularly to be a jw or keep your family...

I stopped pioneering when I was 19 to go to college to do nursing...i knew i didn't want to be a jw but didnt have any way or plan of getting out...however a year later i tried to stop going...it didnt work but 2 1/2 years later i successfully stopped going and my mother and sister stopped too.....

my nursing career has grown and now im a senior nurse and am going to start another degree next year.....

so my advice is like the others....start investing in your own education to get a career - so you can support yourself.....

if you are depressed - go see a doctor and get treatment/support (you may have to see a psychiatrist, no shame in that...I do and he told me that he treats heaps and heaps of Jws... so there are obviously alot of unhappy people in the org...so go and get yourself support)

then the next step would be to get some more support through another organisation - im in Australia and we have Womens centres which deal alot with domestic/family violence.....dont rule this out....family 'outing or shunning' another is considered domestic or family violence....so you could go and start the counselling process there as they understand women and will know all the resources that will be available to you when you want to make a move and leave or if it all turns to shit sooner than you planned...they can help and support you practically and emotionally....

you can always message me too

Lp xx

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Moses vs. Santa Claus -- epic battle

by Hortensia in

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=0krakxfryq4.

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sorry i can't remember how to make the link active.

l p

LMFAO

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I'm also new here

by Yohan in

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i'll refrain from commenting on the shooting.

i spent 2 hours on fb last night doing that.

let's just say i'm a devout 2nd amendment supporter and believe more guns are the answer.. .

l p

Welcome John, good to have you xx

Cofty - I pissed myself laughing at that!!!

Lp

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does anyone dream they are on the ministry?

by pajaha in

or maybe that should be "nightmare" - not dream.. it happens less and less, but still does now and again after 10 years.

it's always associated with a great feeling of dread and going from door to door knowing you do not believe what you are saying (i should point out that, while i was in it, i pretty much did believe it).. i guess it shows how big a part of our lives it once was - a bit like you often dream of being in school or of long-departed relatives..

l p

Yeah I had one last night....but it was about being in the KH.....what triggered it is this week I had a visit from one of my mums best friends in the borg.....my mum died 2 years ago...my mum left with me 7 years ago....but they always stayed in touch...less though bec she faded or abruptly left ....

anyway...this woman turns up at my door....i was having a shit day as it were due to feelings about loss of mum....really coincidental that she turned up...cos she lives 3 hours drive away...

anyway i didn't let her in bec i have a christmas tree up.... i was talking to her for 3 mins or so then she asks to use the toilet.....bloody hell i wanted to say no but how can you....so i said sure....she comes in uses the toilet....and then stands next to the christmas tree talking to my son,......fuck!!

anyway she pretty much got on her bike within a minute or so...and as she was walking out the door she said for me to go down the coast and stay with her for a weekend with another sister, another best friend of my mum......

i was polite and said oh thanks yes that would be lovely....

but there is absolutely no way im going bec she will go to the meeting on the sunday and expect to take me and my son...i dont want him anywhere near that shit.....

and then the whole weekend would be about going back to the borg....lots of probing personal questions etc....

so last night i had a bad dream....

shit aye!!

Lp

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My best friend/enemy

by fade_away in

lengthy read ahead!!!!

there's a story i have wanted to share with the ex-jw community.

i have always been too lazy to write it in detail before.

l p

i have sent you a pm

Lp